Questionnaire about your 6 human needs
Please read the following advices first.
1- There are no right or wrong answers. We all have strengths and challenges that we have to overcome. It's much better to know us well, to know our needs well, than to answer the question from someone else's perspective or from a wannabe's perspective.
2- Quickly complete the questionnaire. Your first answer is the best.
3- Be yourself.
4- If you hesitate on a question, note the number of the question and return to it later. At the end of the questionnaire you can write down the number of the questions which made you hesitate.
5- Answer as of today.
INTRO SIX HUMAN NEEDS
Our 6 human needs are the driving forces and motivations behind everything we do. The are the key to understanding and changing behaviour. Every person is constantly striving to meet these needs.
We only do things because at some level consciously or subconsciously we believe that by doing this, by feeling this, by experiencing this, by believing this, by acting in this way, we will meet one or more of what I call our six human needs. You can meet your NEEDS in positive ways, neutral ways or destructive ways, ‘cause everybody finds a way to meet their need for certainty—everyone, even crazy people. Everybody finds a way.
All human beings are raised differently. They have different backgrounds, education, rules that you were brought up with, language patterns, languages, religions. While we’re all completely diverse in our physiologies, the way we look, think, act, behave, one thing I can tell you for sure, we’re hardwired with the same needs.
As in everything human, there are paradoxes involved in the experience of these needs. A person may have a strong need for certainty, but also a strong need for uncertainty, and therefore might constantly suffer an inner conflict as to which need is most important to satisfy. The need for significant is often contradictory with the need for love. It’s difficult to love someone who constantly has to feel significantly important. That is why so many successful people, who satisfy their need for significance, have trouble in their close relationships and often feel that they are not truly loved.
Why are the six human needs so important to understand?
Because they are the driving force behind a person’s behaviour. If you understand a person's needs, and the vehicles they use to meet them, you will have a better understanding of why their life is how it is, and how to facilitate change.
The only question is are you going to find a way that’s, a way that’s obtainable (negative) or sustainable (positive)? Is it a way that serves you short term or long term? Does it serve others and you? Because if it only serves you, it’s not sustainable
Behaviour that meet at least 3 of your needs = you become addicted to it — positive or negative.
When you satisfy two of the needs of someone else, you have a connection. If you satisfy four of their needs, you have a strong attachment. If you satisfy all six of their human needs, the person is permanently bonded to you.
Naturally, you want to satisfy your partner’s needs because it is good for the relationship, and therefore good for you. If you want a strong, loving, and lasting relationship with your partner, you have to satisfy their six basic human needs, using THEIR VEHICULE, not yours.
Understanding and satisfying the human needs of others is the key to a relationship, because it guarantees love and connection. It is equally important that you truly understand your own needs – which two are most motivating you, and which are most motivating your partner. After you watch the film, I will give you a strategy for analyzing this in terms of yourself and your partner, but the same applies to your children, your parents, your friends and colleagues, your boss, and your employees.
Human motivation comes from Six Human Needs
The degree needed varies from person to person
Certainty - The need for stability/feeling grounded/safe, safety/security, and comfort (ability to have pleasure, avoid pain), predictability and protection (about basic necessities: physical or state of mind e.g. religion). e.g.: a roof over one’s head, knowing where the next meal will come from, knowing how to obtain care when one is sick, knowing that a neighbour won’t attack us, KNOWING SOMEONE HAS OUR BACK, HAVING A SAFE PLACE TO LAND.
Uncertainty/Variety - The need for stimulus/challenge and change/instability for body and mind. Need for excitement, exercice, suspense, surprise, entertainment, exertion, surprise, chaos, conflict and crisis, CREATION. Means: Stimuli, change of scene, physical activity, mood swings, entertainment, food, etc. Could be an addiction or need for danger or craving for experiences that puts us at risk (-) or (+).
Significance - The need to be/feel special/important/needed/unique/wanted/appreciated and worthy of attention. Pride, importance, achievement, performance, achievement, perfection, evaluation, discipline, competition. Recognition from others or from themselves. When meet in a + way, significance leads us to raise our standards. I do a good job. I matter to ?
Connection and Love - The need to feel connected and that you belong. Togetherness, passion, unity, warmth, tenderness, romance, feeling complete, bonding, intimacy, feeling understood, wanted. Amour et Connexion Infants who are not held and touched will die. Love of relatives, friends and tribe vs romantic love. Some people rarely experience love, but they have many ways of feeling connection with others – in the community or in the workplace.
Humans need to feel connected with someone or something – a person, an ideal, a value, a habit, and a sense of identity. Connection may take the form of love, or merely of intense engagement – for instance, one can feel connected by means of an aggressive interaction.
The first four needs are essential for human survival. They are the fundamental needs of the personality – everyone must feel that they have met them on some level, even if they have to lie to themselves to do so.
5. Growth - The need to learn and expand your abilities, to change, to discover, grow/ develop emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. Desire to better oneself, expand. Everything in the universe is either growing or dying. People are not spiritually satisfied unless their capacities are expanding.
6. Contribution - The need to give to others without expecting anything back (beyond yourself). About the big picture. Being more that ONESELF. Contribution to the world, to a land, to your house. Everything in the universe contributes beyond itself or is eliminated.